Wanting to win back your ex? If your relationship used to be close but he later dumped you, maybe you want to be back with him. After all, you’ve spent time on that relationship and you may not want to let it all go without at least trying to get him back into your life.

First of all, you need to analyze your own feelings. Do you still care deeply about your ex? Sometimes a great passion burns into being merely comfortable. You dont want to lose your ex because hes like an old slipper. But comfort doesnt make a great relationship. There has to be a great love. If you still have passionate feelings for your old boyfriend, you can move onto the next step of how to win ex back.

And that next step is examining how he feels about you. Does he have the same kind of grand love? If the problems in the relationship were things you can work on then you can win ex back. But, if the problem was deeper, like he was no longer in love with you, you should start to move on now.

After you know that you really do have love between you, then you can work on other steps to try to get back with your ex. Start thinking about what you were like when you and your boyfriend got together. You may have been happier then, maybe you were in better shape, and you may have been involved in various activities with all kinds of friends.

Once you are with a guy awhile, some changes can occur. You don’t spend as much of your time with friends or doing things you enjoy since you end up spending more of your time with him. Sometimes you may even let your body and looks go because you are feeling a bit more secure in the relationship.

In order to win ex back, you will want to start being the woman he first fell for once again.

Another tip to how to win ex back is to practice detachment. Dont call, text, or stalk him. You dont want to appear desperate. By seeming to accept the situation, you actually become more desirable to him.

As you detach yourself, start to focus on doing things for your happiness. Hang out with friends, get involved in your hobbies again and enjoy interests that you have. This will make your outlook more positive, aiding you with winning back your ex boyfriend.

If you see your ex now and then, take past memories and use them to win him back. If you know you’ll see him, wear something he’s always like to see on you. Mention old memories too, such as visiting that restaurant that was so special to the two of you in the past. No doubt there are many great experiences in your past and use these experiences in common to win him back.

From time to time, invite your ex to non-committal type events. Ask him to join a group of your friends at a bar or invite him to a party. Let him know hes free to bring a date.

If you really want to win your ex back, make sure you are yourself with him. You should not try to change yourself to try to get him back. He either loves you or he doesn’t. So, just be yourself.

Life’s challenges come at us from all directions. At work, at home, and at school, challenges are what keep life interesting. As these challenges arise, we have a choice in how to approach them. No matter how we choose to respond, our choices come from one of two places: above the line or below the line.

“The Line” is the parallel that divides our character and represents responsibility. “Living Above the Line” is a powerful life skill, that comes from the ideology of “Money & You,” a course for entrepreneurs and business people. A foundation for communication and personal interaction, living Above the Line highlights and puts into practice the act of Ownership, or taking responsibility for one’s actions.

Just as the horizon differentiates between the Earth and sky, the “Line” signifies the strength of our personal character. Every one of us chooses to either consciously or subconsciously live in one of two places; either ‘Above or Below the Line.’ When we choose to come from ‘Below the Line,’ our lives become circumstance-driven. We let go of our ownership and send the message to the world that we are not in control of our lives. People who live ‘Below the Line,’ all too often lay blame, justify, deny, and quit as they show the world that they have little to no control over their personal responsibilities.

“Laying blame” could quite possibly be the most common and damaging way to live Below the Line. To a high school student being called out by their teacher for talking in class, this could look like, “She was talking to ME! It’s not my fault!” While the student may think he or she has a viable excuse, it doesn’t solve the issue or promote responsibility, and is a reliable way to cause bad feelings.

A second way to live Below the Line is to “Justify.” Justification happens when we create reasons why we didn’t perform as we had planned. “Why did I get pulled over?! Everyone else is speeding” This Below the Line tendency provides reasons for failure in believing that the reason will make everything acceptable.

When we “Deny,” we are committing yet another “Below the Line” fallacy. “I didn’t do it.” This obviously ineffective response can create certain frustration with others and make us appear unreliable and dishonest.

Finally, the most disheartening form of Below the Line thinking is to all out “Quit.” You quit when you believe so passionately that you will fail that you don’t even bother to try. This act sabotages your chances for success even before they begin. Quitting is the most profound way to diminish and deceive yourself.

Fortunately, there is a whole other place to live from. By living Above the Line, we are using response-ability, a life skill which can be defined as “having the ability to respond.” With response-ability comes increasing choices and freedoms. At SuperCamp, an academic summer camp for kids and teens, students learn that living Above the Line means being accountable for their actions and having a willingness to make corrections when necessary. It means looking at the options and finding solutions to become more effective. This thinking leads students to greater freedoms as they use their experiences to move toward success rather than being controlled by circumstances. You determine your own actions.

By living Above the Line, people take responsibility for their own lives. You begin to have greater control because you stop blaming things outside yourself for your current situation. For students, this means learning to take ownership of their education, relationships, and other areas of their lives. They can create a shift in their lives simply by taking ownership of their attitude.

Response-ability is the ability to respond to what happens to you, rather than just accepting it. When you sit back and accept, things happen to you. When you take action, you make life happen for you.

When you’re left thinking he dumped me ” how will I ever survive; then I do have a little bad news for you. This article isn’t necessarily going to make it all better. All I can tell you is that even though you’ve been through a break up, you’re not broken.

When youve been in the position that “he dumped me,” you have two fears. The first is that you will never recover from the pain. The second is that no one will ever love you again.

Take heart, dear. The fear is real. The pain is real. But, the situation exists in your head, not in the real world. While one part of your life may be over, your life is not over.

You have your friends and family; people who care for you and love you. Now is a good time to reconnect with these important people in your life. You can definitely use their emotional support and since you’ve been involved in your relationship, you may not have spending as much time with them. Spending time with people who care about you will certainly make you feel a little better about things.

In fact, sharing your loss with them may encourage them to share their break up experiences with you. When you say, “he dumped me,” that allows them to be vulnerable about how they’ve been hurt. You will begin to see that your pain is not unique. You will also be able to see that other people have lived full and complete lives after a break up.

Taking some time out to take care of yourself is also important right now. Your boyfriends may not have shared all of your interests, causing you to spend less times doing some things you enjoy. Take this opportunity to get back into some of the things which have been missing from your life.

If no particular activity comes to mind, then maybe you need to get a hobby! No, really, when you say “he dumped me,” what you tell yourself is that you are worthless. When you take up a new activity and invest in yourself, you prove to yourself that you matter.

Joining some sort of group activity is best. A class, a club; anything where you can meet new people and do something you enjoy.

Once you begin to rejoin the world, you’ll feel better about life and about having been dumped. You can make new friends, start enjoying new activities or rediscovering old hobbies and maybe you’ll even meet your next special someone while you’re out there living your life!

This isn’t the end of the world ” or of your love life. There is someone else out there even better for you.

In retrospect, you may look at the breakup as a positive event which allowed you to move on and meet that perfect guy; after all, the best revenge is living well!

As much as we sometimes would like it to, life never stands still. We grow up, kids grow up, and life keeps evolving. As the changes of life ensue, we are consistently faced with choices on how to face them. No matter how we choose to respond, our choices come from one of two places; either above or below the line.

No matter the time of day or night, the parallel line that divides our character and represents responsibility is constantly within our vision. Taken from the ideology of “Money & You,” a course for entrepreneurs and business people, “Living Above the Line” is a powerful life skill that helps us maintain responsibility for our choices and actions. As a foundation for communication and personal interaction, living Above the Line highlights and puts into practice the act of Ownership, by taking responsibility for our actions.

Just as the horizon differentiates between the Earth and sky, the “Line” signifies the strength of our personal character. Every one of us chooses to either consciously or subconsciously live in one of two places; either ‘Above or Below the Line.’ When we choose to come from ‘Below the Line,’ our lives become circumstance-driven. We let go of our ownership and send the message to the world that we are not in control of our lives. People who live ‘Below the Line,’ all too often lay blame, justify, deny, and quit as they show the world that they have little to no control over their personal responsibilities.

The most common and personally damaging way to live ‘Below the Line’ is to “lay blame.” In high school, laying blame can look a lot like being called out by a teacher for talking in class. “She was talking to ME! It’s not my fault!” While the student may think he or she has an appropriate retort, it doesn’t solve the issue or promote responsibility, and is a surefire way to cause resentment between the student and teacher.

A second way to live Below the Line is to “Justify.” Justification happens when we create reasons why we didn’t perform as we had planned. “Why did I get pulled over?! Everyone else is speeding” This Below the Line tendency provides reasons for failure in believing that the reason will make everything acceptable.

Another way to live below the line is to “Deny.” “I didn’t do it.” (Think, Bart Simpson.) When we deny, the problem doesn’t go away. This obviously ineffective response can cause others a great deal of frustration (Think Marge Simpson), and make you seem unreliable or dishonest.

Finally, the most disheartening form of Below the Line thinking is to all out “Quit.” You quit when you believe so passionately that you will fail that you don’t even bother to try. This act sabotages your chances for success even before they begin. Quitting is the most profound way to diminish and deceive yourself.

When we Live Above the Line, however, we are using response-ability, a life skill which can be defined as “having the ability to respond.” With response-ability come choices and freedoms. At SuperCamp, an academic summer program for teens, students learn that living Above the Line means being accountable for their actions and having a willingness to make corrections when necessary. It means looking at the options and finding solutions to become more effective. This thinking leads to greater freedoms as we use our experiences to move us toward success rather than being controlled by circumstances. You determine your own actions.

By living ‘Above the Line,’ people take responsibility for their own life. This action creates greater control of our lives because we stop blaming outside influences on ourselves and situations. For students, it means learning to take ownership of their potential by owning up to their education and relationships. They can create a shift in their lives simply by taking ownership of their attitude.

Response-ability is the ability to respond to the events that happen in our lives. When you sit back and accept things that happen to you, you are allowing the circumstances of life to control you rather than taking control of what circumstances come in and out of your life. When you take action, you make life happen for you.

Do you ever ask yourself the question? Why do women break up with men? Time and time again you’ll hear a man make the comment that his girlfriend or wife just broke up with him. And you’ll wonder why, because he treated her great and really seemed to worship her.

Did you ever hear that line “Nice guys finish last?” Well, there’s a little truth to that statement. Many women aren’t as self assured as they could be and any women who is a little insecure will sometimes wonder why a really great guy would want her. So, if you seem to be head over heals in love with her, she’ll wonder what’s wrong with you.

Does every female have that view? Nope, of course not! Many women have the self assurance to know what they want in a man and they’ll expect to be treated well or they’ll get out of the relationship. But Many women subscribe to the “grass is always greener” mentality. The man of their dreams could be the next one they meet.

How should you respond when a woman unexpectedly calls off the relationship? You will not immediately contact her. It’s obvious she didn’t appreciate what she had at the time, so give her the opportunity to realize what she has lost.

Try not to act like you’re devastated, but instead get back out in the world. Go out with friends, go on dates if you like. Actually, dating is good because you just might find a woman out there who has the self assurance to appreciate what you offer.

What you really need to ask yourself is whether you want to be involved on that level with a person who is so insecure. Think about it? Is she really worth it? If you think she’s the perfect one for you, give her the time and space to catch up. It is never impossible to mend a relationship, as long as the trust remains.

It’s fairly likely that she’ll call you if you haven’t called her in awhile. Be friendly, but aloof. Don’t share much about your life. And don’t ask a lot about hers. And cut the call short. The idea is to give her time to realize that you ARE the man of her dreams.

Basically, she’s going to have to earn the right to have you for a boyfriend or lover. Let HER chase you, not the other way around. And if you finally let her catch you, hold a little of yourself back for a while. Remember, she’s not sure what to do if you’re really nice, so don’t give so much.

Am I saying treat her bad? No way! Just stay a little more independent of her this time. If you really want to save your relationship, these are the steps that can make it happen!

What we should be doing when the economy is down.

When the financial market is unstable worldwide, the first reaction of most people is to hold on to what they have and also cut costs. They also presume that practically everyone is doing the same thing, as that is the impression that newspapers create.

Everyone ISN`T acting that way of course. In fact, some people and some businesses thrive no matter where the economy is going. And when you look for why that is, you find that the answer often lies in a simple place where most people have never even looked. Let’s explore together.

When a current is going downward, whatever the reason be, the way to survive is by rowing against the current. If we let ourselves to be swept away by the current, we may sink deep down and survival might become difficult.

The truth is that when we know how to steer ourselves and be our own masters, we will able to stay afloat or swim against the current, come what may. Let us see how we can manage it.

‘Go-getters’ or ‘Go-contributors’

Imagine a scenario where we want to have more – better profits, a higher salary, more leave, better liberty, and wider chances.

When we want something, the first thing we tend to do is to go and get it. So, we call ourselves ‘Go-getters’. And being a ‘go-getter’ is, let’s face it, a sign of leadership, activism and an early-adopter mindset. This is of course one of the keys to the success formulae we often read about. But there is a problem. It turns out that when we use this ’strategy’, there are some unexpected (but quite predictable) consequences.

The crux of the problem is that after ‘getting’ and ‘owning’ a thing, what eventually happens is ‘dropping’ it. We either actually throw it away or become indifferent to it.

So then we immediately shift our focus to getting more. And here’s the real problem; the more we do that, the more we create a cycle that actually makes us continuously feel as though we do not yet have enough. It’s like a carbohydrate addiction!

But what if we turned our ‘getting’ into giving?

Most of you are aware that the act of providing gives a sense of fulfilment. This ensues from gratefulness and not from panic or avarice. A person can go on providing more and receive more and know full satisfaction in the voyage of life.

Our abundant and providing attitude creates abundant and providing clients and team mates while our cost awareness and ‘getting approach’ would draw towards us only similar clients and team mates. And those are the type of people we would not like to be friends with!

Creative capitalism

Most ventures are today aware of the inspiring role of capitalism. They are ever ready to contribute more through many avenues. The idea has strongly impacted the business world as they realise how giving is central to business interests. A typical example is Bill Gates, who expounded the philosophy of ‘Creative Capitalism’ in July 2008 in a TIME magazine article.

He explained that helping others might be the fine deciding point that could persuade people to prefer one product to another.

What he’s actually saying is that when a company links its business to giving in some way, that company and its products become more attractive to customers. It takes us way, way above what’s been called ‘the sea of sameness’.

Creative Capitalism is concerned about reaching higher than what we might reconcile for to arrive at where we hoped to arrive. When we can make the most of our design and inspiration in a way that assists and fosters the larger community of nations and continents, we are preventing the wastage of supplies, endeavours and capacities to succeed. Then we are crafting the most authentic success for ourselves and for the financial stability of the countries across the world.

The charm of effective giving

Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR) is the phrase that’s often used to describe giving back at a corporate level. It’s becoming almost a required part of corporate business practice. Yet when it’s done out of a sense of obligation or with the intent to just make ourselves look good, people eventually get what it is. It still is a temporary strategy.

Individuals and enterprises that ‘contribute’, appeal to everyone. Their fervour and conviction about what they do are acknowledged by the people with whom they build up relationships. This acknowledgement is in addition to the official public relations campaign of the establishment.

What is likely to be the upshot if some of the capital meant for marketing is apportioned for contributions?

Giving gives rise to something greater than what we actually are. It has the power to inspire. And true inspiration is possible only when it echoes on the people whom we want to enthuse. And we are enthused only when we put our heart and soul into the procedure. It is simply not sufficient to listen to the interesting tales. One has to become part and parcel of the whole process. Everyone has this inclination to make one’s own input – to one’s immediate relatives, friends, and to the society at large.

Transaction-based giving causes it to happen on its own

The facility for contributing became so much simpler because of a programme (or one can say a ‘development’) called Buy1GIVE1 (Buy One Give One). Buy1GIVE1 is the heart of transaction-based giving. Transaction-based giving revolutionises things. Let us use our creativity and analyse how.

How wonderful is the situation where every time someone buys an ice cream, a child somewhere in an underprivileged country gets a cup of milk?

Imagine if every time you subscribed to a magazine you love, a tree got planted automatically just because you bought the magazine? Or every time you dine out, you fed a child in need? Automatically again.

Or supposing you are undergoing some training. How wonderful it would be if another eager student far away is also getting the necessary training as a corollary (believe it or not, the training does not cost the training institute more than 60 cents a day).

Or maybe even the speaker you hire for your conference makes sure that kids who can’t speak (because of facial deformities) now can by automatically giving back to a worthy cause connected to those kids. All of a sudden, you feel good too because you’ve done some good!

Consider whether you will be able to use transaction-based giving in your own exclusive way to go with your services or products to make your customers and other team-mates part of the saga of contributing. This is how you can do it.

The economy where all benefits

Already, companies right around the world are ‘getting’ the power of this transaction-based giving. Just one example-the UK’s leading supermarket chain, TESCO now gives a school uniform to a child in Kenya whenever a customer buys a pair of school trousers.

Mineral Water Company Volvic also rolled out their transaction-based giving program successfully last year. For every 1 litre of Volvic people buy, Volvic gives funds to build wells in Africa in a program they call Buy1 GIVE 10 (since every 1 litre sold essentially creates a flow of 10 litres in the well.

Middle level and comparatively small enterprises are now in the forefront in widening this global giving phenomenon through Creative Capitalism. Buy1GIVE1 (www.b1g1.com), a Singapore-based Social Enterprise came up with an effective strategy which has turned this transaction-based giving into a movement that anyone who wants can participate in.

Buy1GIVE1 is the home of the most impactful transaction-based giving in the world because it connects any business of any size to any cause in the world. It’s creating a global community of business givers and for SME`s, Buy1GIVE1 connects businesses, their customers AND charities in a way that hasn’t been done before. And it all happens automatically.

You can become a citizen of this global giving movement by simply getting a Buy1GIVE1 `VISA` directly off the Buy1GIVE1 site at www.b1g1.com. And if you own a business you can become a B1G1 Business through a simple online application and select your cause for your main product or service to kick-start your giving. Buy1GIVE1 forwards 100% of the contributions to their international Worthy Cause Partners (there are now over 528 projects you can select) making the giving even more effective.

Are you aware?

* One half of the world’s population -which is about three billion people-does not have a daily income of even two dollars.

* Nearly a billion people entered the 21st century unable to read a book or sign their name.

* According to UNICEF, 30,000 children die each day due to poverty. That is about 210,000 children each week, or 20 children every minute.

* Just 12% of the people worldwide utilize 85% of the water available for human consumption. And this 12% does not belong to any of the underdeveloped countries.

* About a billion people have no access to minimum health care facilities.

* Rainforests of about 63,000 sq. miles get destroyed every year.

Statistic From Global Issues

Buy1GIVE1 Businesses-check out these examples

* Buy1BUILD1 (www.sunsplashhomes.com, www.arkgroup.com.au)

* Instruction to Instruction (www.kipmcgrath.com.au)

* Medical treatment helping in medical aid (www.primanora.com)

* Telephone card helping in communication (www.ultimatecomms.com)

* Meditation to restoration (www.meditate.com.au)

* Weight loss to kids’ meals (www.bodychain.com)

* Blind installation to lighting up schools (www.blindscouture.com.au)

* Socks for protecting feet from frostbite (www.socksforhappypeople.com)

* Coaching to train social entrepreneurs (www.b1g1forcoaches.com)

* And to get a complete picture, just go to www.b1g1.com.

Discovering what we are looking for-Nature has got the answer

So let’s let us return to the starting point-turbulent economics and managing to get what we need. The needs are in fact not all that knotty. They are just a group of three words that begin with the letter S – strong bonds, solidarity and society.

When we can pool resources and not segregate and when we can divine a proper way to augment what every one has got and not cut down from what each has got, we understand that there is a veritable cornucopia of sources to be had in the world. And when we bond, jot just with our physical persona, but with our intrinsic selves, we discern something completely fascinating -that we’re all ONE. Then we comprehend how uncomplicated it is to form a universal community from something as ordinary as giving.

And the truth is there in all its glory in nature.

In nature, bees and butterflies pollinate flowers and create sustainable flower gardens for many generations to thrive on. It’s been in front of us all along!

Failures are said to be stepping stones to success. In the same way we can turn setbacks into advantages. In reality we should be thankful for the current situation that is helping us to move ahead.

And when a person chooses to donate now itself, in spite of the financial crisis, he will feel more contended. And with this contentment he will find a hope that is rekindled anew, which will ring a bell on how the ebb and flow of things can change. Today’s charity might be that which will reverse the flow.

Once again you have come home unsatisfied after a day with a guy. It wasn’t great and all you can think is how much you want your ex back.

After going through a breakup, you may start to date others. However, if you are constantly thinking that you just want your ex back in your life, you may be wondering if there is anything to get that relationship back.

Well, you can do some things. Here is a look at several strategies that work when you want your ex back.

First, clear your energy from other people. Dont invest time and energy in men who arent your ex. For your old relationship to start working again, you have to prepare your mind, body and soul for him. If you are flirting with another guy, dating other men, or even worse, sleeping around, you are not preparing the proper mindset for getting your ex back.

Next, keep your dignity. Dont chase your ex, flooding him with hundreds of text messages, calling him at odd times of day, or stalking him. Also, you need to make him respect you and treat you well. Dont be a doormat. You will only command your exs respect and love when you are yourself at your best. Hold your head high. You will increase your chances of getting back together with your ex if you do.

The third thing to do is come up with a list of the things you really love about your ex. Think about them. There can be a lot of accusations when a break up occurs. After you have had a bit of time to get over it, start thinking about the good characteristics. This can be helpful when you want to get back your ex.

Next, when you get back together, try changing some of the circumstances. Go to new places and try new things. Take up a new hobby together. Meet new people. By changing the environment of your relationship, you have a better chance of making it work.

Dont fall into the same old patterns of your relationship. You may even want to tune your relationship down a notch. If you were living together, try having separate places for a while. If you were engaged, try just dating. Dont try to force your relationship back into old patterns.

Finally, create a shared sense of destiny. While fate certainly plays a role in our lives, we are the ones who write our life script. Map out with your partner where you want to go. When you do this together, you create a mission with a place for both of you.

When you want ex back, you have to work with new scenarios. Follow the advice in this article if you want ex back.

Have you ever thought about that? Why do men get dumped by women? Time and time again you’ll hear a man make the comment that his girlfriend or wife just broke up with him. You were so good to her it almost seemed like you worshiped her, so you’ll have no idea why.

Most likely you’ve heard the phrase “Nice guys finish last”, right? In fact, that saying is somewhat true. Many women aren’t as self assured as they could be and any women who is a little insecure will sometimes wonder why a really great guy would want her. She is going to be concerned if you act head over heals in love.

Does every female have that view? Nope, of course not! Many women have the self assurance to know what they want in a man and they’ll expect to be treated well or they’ll get out of the relationship. But Many women subscribe to the “grass is always greener” mentality. The man of their dreams could be the next one they meet.

What happens when a lady ends the relationship for no reason? The number one rule is NO CONTACT, not by phone, email, or in person. Blinded by her own selfishness, she was unable to see what you had to offer.

Don’t behave like your world has ended, go out and have a real life. Get out of the house and even date a little. When you start dating, you may be lucky enough to find a woman who is confident enough in herself to appreciate all that you have to offer her.

The real question you need to ask yourself is if you really want to be in a relationship with an insecure woman? Think about it? Is she really worth it? If you absolutely think she’s the one, then you need to give her a lot of time and space to grow up. Fixing a relationship is always possible if the trust is still there.

If you don’t call her in awhile there’s a good chance she’ll call you first. Be friendly, but aloof. Don’t share much about your life. And don’t ask a lot about hers. And cut the call short. Let her arrive at the conclusion that YOU are the one she’s been dreaming of.

Now it is simple, she will have to earn your time and affection. Be the one who is chased rather than the chaser. If she gets a hold on you while playing hard to get, don’t go “all in,” reserve a little. If you are really nice she may not know what to do so don’t be too open.

Did you hear me tell you to mistreat her? No way! Just stay a little more independent of her this time. If salvaging your relationship is what you want, here are the steps that may help restore your happiness.

Has this query ever crossed your mind? Why is it that women dump men? Time and time again you’ll hear a man make the comment that his girlfriend or wife just broke up with him. It’s puzzling, seeing as he treated her well and it seemed that he really worshipped her.

Most likely you’ve heard the phrase “Nice guys finish last”, right? In fact, that saying is somewhat true. Many women aren’t as self assured as they could be and any women who is a little insecure will sometimes wonder why a really great guy would want her. She is going to be concerned if you act head over heals in love.

Are all women that way? Nope, of course not! Many women have the self assurance to know what they want in a man and they’ll expect to be treated well or they’ll get out of the relationship. But many females think that things are always better elsewhere. They would be better off with the person coming in the near future.

How should you respond when a woman unexpectedly calls off the relationship? You will not immediately contact her. It’s obvious she didn’t appreciate what she had at the time, so give her the opportunity to realize what she has lost.

Don’t behave like your world has ended, go out and have a real life. Get out of the house and even date a little. When you start dating, you may be lucky enough to find a woman who is confident enough in herself to appreciate all that you have to offer her.

The real question you need to ask yourself is if you really want to be in a relationship with an insecure woman? Think about it? Is she really worth it? If you absolutely think she’s the one, then you need to give her a lot of time and space to grow up. Fixing a relationship is always possible if the trust is still there.

If you have not called lately, you can expect she will likely call you. Be friendly, but aloof. Don’t share much about your life. And don’t ask a lot about hers. And cut the call short. You want to allow her the opportunity to recognize you as her ideal man.

In short, she needs to prove herself as an appropriate girlfriend or lover. Let HER be the one doing the chasing, not the opposite. If you finally catch her, be mysterious. Keep in mind, she may be uncertain how to respond to a decent guy, so don’t overwhelm her.

Am I saying treat her bad? No way! Just stay a little more independent of her this time. If you really want to save your relationship, these are the steps that can make it happen!

I’ve already talked about a few ways to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for getting over a difficult break-up and moving on with your love life. Now, I will continue this discussion and explore a few more tips on how to grow into a better person and take the pain and hurt of a break up in stride. Ok, on to a few more tips…

“HATE Leads to FEAR leads to SUFFERING…” You should RESOLVE all the problems regarding possible negative feelings, as suggested by this phrase.

Sometimes you are going to want to scream, you are so pissed off. You may resent your ex because so much time seems “wasted” or there are kids involved that now you have to deal with. Finally, you may come to hate YOURSELF, and that’s the scariest place of all, because everyone needs love, but you have to be able to depend on YOURSELF to love YOU first. Don’t waste your time with hate.

In some Native American cultures, people would come together in a time of crisis so that the most troubled would gain from the collective wisdom of the community. In microcosm, this still works! Gather up your friends, homies, buddies, compadres..whatever! and get their advice. Perhaps they have been through similar events.

If you have friends that are men you will be able to see reality objectively and make the right decisions about your life. You will find that your women friends will provide you with the empathy, emotional perspective, rejuvenating energy and the caring that you need to help you move courageously forward. We have to schedule our meeting and gather together soon!

Artists who are experiencing some form of turmoil put forth some of the best poems, novel, songs and art. Each of us has an imagination and a creative side. Start exploring your path as you place your feelings out there for more expression. It is very important to take notes so when you go into see the therapist you can have it all at hand.

When you are finally in a stable relationship, you can take the time to reflect on the break-up that had such an impact on your life.

Our discussion has ended. Be reminded always of these things, but be open to other possibilities such as these: